We Have Moved (on Up)

We Have Moved! We have moved to our own self-hosted WordPress format and are loving the new features that will make our blog better than ever.

You can NOW find us at http://createyourownamazingbusiness.com/

There will be no further post on this blog and once we are fully switched and comfortable that everyone has had a chance to see that we have moved we will shut this site down.

Oh and one more thing, the only integration that was not exactly what we had hoped for was that of Google Friend Connect so please follow on our new site even if you were already a follower since you will no longer be a follower on our new site!

We look FORWARD to seeing you there!

JOY TO YOU!

Mariyln Holm

Hey, Iv'e been fired, Week 2

Surprisingly, now that I've been fired, Monday mornings are the worst day of the week. Usually, on Monday mornings, we ramp ourselves up for our work week. We drag ourselves out of bed and step into our workday routine. A lot of times, we hate Monday mornings. We feel like we're heading back to confinement, after a weekend of freedom and doing exactly what we want to do.

So you would think that Monday mornings would be great, if you didn't have to go into work. Freedom! That would probably be true, if there wasn't a fear clamped firmly in my gut, settling wetly on my heart, a constant undertone of worry about the future, worry about how things are going to turn out, how does this movie end. . .

The loss of morning routines can be disconcerting and can aggravate worry and fear. So it follows that establishing an alternative morning routine can provide a sense of order and purpose to the day. Since I'm calling the shots now, I've decided to include things that I enjoy into my morning routine. But it's also important to include things that maintain my self-discipline and increase my certainty of success.

On my list of enjoyable things: meditation, yoga postures, writing, hot bath, gazing into my cat's adoring eyes, talking with my husband, watercolor, taking action. On my list of disciplined things: balanced breakfast, walking, catching up on emails, paying bills, waiting.

Taking action and waiting are a balancing act. I've signed up another 4 people in my business in the last few days, sent out a newsletter, written follow-up emails to everyone on the list, sent out samples and literature, gotten my downline pointed in the direction that's best for each person. . . Taking action is the easy part for me. But it has to be balanced with waiting to be truly effective. I have to consciously make myself wait, wait for others to sift through the information in their brains in order to move forward; wait for the emails to be opened and read, absorbed; wait for the postal service to deliver the samples and literature; wait for the soup to simmer and be ready for lunch.

A friend told me: take care not to drive faster than your angels can fly. Last week, a couple of times, I drove too fast and splatted against the wall at the dead end because I missed the side street where the answer was patiently waiting for me. I put in motion a couple of projects that didn't need doing. I left voice messages that were outdated after I opened my email and found the answers waiting for me there.

Progress is directional. If you have trouble taking action, then progress for you is convincing yourself to take action. If you're doing too many things and spinning your wheels, then progress for you is slowing down and balancing your life. And when your life changes drastically, your directional progress may require a fresh look and evaluation of what's really going on and what would be the best direction for your energy and focus.

So this Monday morning, I'm establishing a new routine, balanced yet active, thoughtful yet reaching out, generating a positive attitude, nurturing hope that turns into faith that turns into belief that turns into reality. I'm waiting yet taking action, balancing the two opposites perfectly in my heart, letting the joy blossom and grow, enveloping my day, guiding me toward the right thing to do.

How is your Monday?

Learn to communicate

With any business, you have to learn how to communicate with others. If you make fabulous jewelry, you'll have to wear it all, unless you can tell others all about it.

There are lots of options for getting the word out, and those options exist whether you're an artisan, a dentist, a massage therapist, a CEO, or a network marketer.

So, if you want to move from the world of employees trading their time for some money, into the world of business owners, where your time and money expand while you sit on a beach, you have to learn to communicate.

Luckily, communication is a learned skill. I know, because I used to be lousy at it. I couldn't think of what to say after "Hi, I'm Marilyn." Most of my mind then switched to the theme of "How do I get out of this conversation without mortifying myself." I was wooden; I was shifty-eyed, I was shallow, I was frozen.

Now, I can pretty much chat away with anyone I choose. It's pretty cool. And a HUGE relief.

The key is to keep the focus of the conversation on the person to whom you're speaking. If you can keep a person talking about himself, he will come away from the conversation thinking that you are fascinating. If you can keep a person talking about himself, you will come away knowing whether or not what you have to offer is a good fit for that person. Perfect.

Most of the time, the initial conversation isn't about your business or product at all. It's about establishing a connection. Some people only need a slight connection before they're ready to talk business. Other people need a long long time before they can open their ears.

Follow their lead. If their need is strong, right there on the surface, they'll bring it up long before you have to pry it out of them. If their need is minimal or doesn't carry a relationship to what you have to offer, then you don't need to talk business after all. It's not the right time yet, or it's just not for them. Either way, you know where to go, because you're just following along after them, asking questions that let you know what's up with THEM.

Practice where it's easier. Tell the cashier that you like her earrings. See if the conversation has good energy around it. Then be on your way. Ask the couple in front of you in line if they've ever eaten here before, what's their favorite on the menu. See if it goes anywhere. Follow their lead.

Practice every day, in small ways. Then when the right opportunity for a business conversation comes along, you'll be a well-oiled machine. You'll be open to the possibilities each person presents to you, and it will all be natural and fun.

If it's fun, you'll do it more often. The first dozen might be awkward, but soon you'll get to the fun level, and then you'll be on your way. You'll have crossed another hurdle, and you won't need to look back.

Hurray for you!

Too busy?

What are you doing right now, that is going to gain you more time a year from now?

Of course you're busy; everyone is. Is that ever going to change, given the course you're on now?

Everyone has 24 hours each and every day. Most people spend all of their time making all of their money. The treadmill loops around and around, and they can never get off.

Some people leverage their time, so that a year from now, they're not working so hard; five years from now, they're kicking back; ten years from now they're sitting pretty.

If you work harder at what you're already doing in your job, you're just going to keep working longer and longer hours. Jobs can eat us alive, especially those of us who are motivated to do a GREAT job.

But do the GREAT job for yourself, and for your family, and for your friends. Don't do it for some corporate board of directors, or the neighborhood hardware store. Do it for yourself and the people who are important in your life.

Network marketing lets you train yourself and learn from your leader, then train and lead others, who then train and lead others, who then train and lead others. The harder you work, the less you have to work next year or the year after that, and that trend just keeps on going.

Network marketing is the PERFECT business for people who are too busy, who have no time. Because it gives you the gift of time. It gives you back your life, so you can spend it with your kids with your wife, with your husband, with your friends.

Hey, I've been fired; week 1

Many things change when you've lost your job. Routine is one of the changes that rears up in front of you immediately. Here it is, Monday morning, and I'm home with no real agenda in front of me. It's tempting to go back to bed, curl up with a good book or engrossing video, talk to my cat or call a friend and chat for an hour or two. Escape can be very inviting.

But that's not going to get me where I want to go. Sometimes you have to just give in and indulge your fear, but I'm determined not to let that become a habit. The best antidote for fear and uncertainty is taking action. I've generated some very strong leads, and I'm going to follow up on them today, with confidence and genuine friendliness.

The business and products that I have to offer people are the best that I've ever found. I'm crazy about my products, and the people who have tried them are now crazy about them, too. My company is headed up by the best business people around, and I love working with them. I have so much to offer people, and I'm using that knowledge to feed my enthusiasm and take charge of my attitude, my world view.

In parallel with this, I'm opening up communication about some consulting work that I can do on the side, a few hours a week, to help pay the bills while my business continues to grow. I know that this will give me some breathing room and help me to feel a bit safer financially.

This is a bit tricky, because it would be easy to spread too thin, putting energy into consulting rather than focusing completely on building my business. But you can't build a business with confidence if you're working from a platform of fear. It's important to make your present reality one that you can live in with an open heart, so that that's what you show the world, rather than an underlying edge of fear.

To manage both of these endeavors, I'm committing to taking care of MY business FIRST, then turning to the consulting sideline to keep it flowing along. I'm keeping my priorities very clear in my mind and in my heart, so the universe knows how it's supposed to respond to help me move forward into my new reality.

I'm enjoying the journey, while I move toward my destination.

You want to change the world? Transform yourself.

If anyone tells you that starting your own business is easy, you have my permission to laugh out loud. If anyone tells you that you don't have to work hard, you can hold your stomach and roll on the grass. If anyone tells you that you can pay off your mortgage next month, please, gasp for breath.

But if anyone tells you that the hardest part of succeeding in your own business is working on yourself, please go very still and listen with every fiber of your being. You are talking with someone who has been down that road and grabbed the prize. You have found a leader who can help you succeed.

You should listen very carefully to people who have succeeded. You should ignore the blathering of those who have failed. They'll only enable you to fail, too.

I've worked very hard to succeed at network marketing. Learning to talk with people was pretty fun, because it got easier and easier. Learning to describe our compensation plan was pretty fun, because I love describing how money flows into your bank account. Learning to burbble about our product was fun because I absolutely LOVE our product. All of that was easy.

What was hard, was me. Sometimes I was in a bad mood, and didn't want to return phone calls. Sometimes I felt overwhelmed, and then sorry for myself, yearning for some time to just stare at the walls. Sometimes it was hard to pick myself up off the floor, because I had battered my self-esteem so thoroughly that I was numb with indecision and fear.

And so along the way, I learned to treat myself as well as I treat other people. I started asking myself, would I ever say that to someone else? Maybe I should take that back, and then forgive myself for even saying it.

I learned to let myself stare at the wall, when that's all I could do. That wasn't too hard. What was harder was not beating myself up for wasting time staring at the wall. If that was what I needed, then that is what I would give myself.

I learned to recognize that I'm a very hard worker, and that I work better if I'm filled with joy. I learned to focus on the joy, and consistently turn away from the ickies. I went on an icky fast. And just like any determined fasting effort, the ickies started to drop away. Then I learned how to not put them back on. I am icky-slim. I move through the world, icky-free.

Every once in a while, I'll pick up an icky and give it a try. You know what? It tastes icky now. I have the ability to choose between joy and icky, and I've learned that joy tastes way better. I've learned to discern the difference.

So I have succeeded at network marketing. I make all the money that I want, that I need. That's nice.

I have succeeded at network marketing. I am joyful; I laugh easily, from the heart; I smile at everyone, and they smile back, brightly. I am transformed.

That's more than nice. That's wondrous.

You want to change the world? Transform yourself.

I've been fired, Day 3

Day 3 hit me hard. It was a day of anxiety and disappointment, but now that I'm sitting here in Day 4, I can see that it was a reality that I created for myself.

Huh?

What I mean is that I had huge expectations. I envisioned my conference room filled to the brim with 40 people, that they would all enthusiastically fill out the enrollment forms after hearing my brilliant presentation, and that they would each run out and find 5 of their friends for our next meeting and the avalanche would carry us all along to the promised land.

Well, there were less than 40 people, and although the presentation was brilliant, not everyone signed up and rushed out to find their friends. So I slipped into a slump and landed in a great big puddle of fear. My poor husband; he helped me limp along while I gave in to despair and waited until there was a glimmer of positive thought and blew gently on that ember so that it could start to warm my soul.

In actuality, I made 3 extremely promising contacts that have become even more promising this morning, only 18 hours later; I have a list of 20 new emails and phone numbers for follow up from enthusiastic people who weren't able to make it to last night's meeting, and I have a clear idea of my next step. Oh, and did I mention that I have 3 new enrollees?

And yet that icky fear is still clinging to my ankles, threatening to rise up and swallow my heart, and render me incapable of motion.

It's all in my head. Yesterday was a GREAT success. At any other point, my heart would be dancing a jig, and I would be grinning at everyone within radar range.

Thank goodness for self-honesty. It's important to be able to look inside and discern the source of discord. Stress is the difference between the way we want something to be, and the way it actually is. Stress diminishes when you work with things the way they are, instead of the way that you want them to be.

So when I look at what really happened yesterday and my reaction to what happened yesterday, it's easy to see that the cause of my stress is this impending deadline of needing to make this work within 2 months. I felt that my very survival depended on the presence of 40 enthusiastic enrollees at one meeting. I created this reality for myself that told me I failed, when actually, I succeeded.

Being in business for yourself is more than just making things happen, like getting people to a meeting, training them, mentoring them. It's also about personal growth, managing yourself, taking responsibility for your reactions, monitoring your world view. I'm a much stronger person today than I was yesterday, because I had to lift some pretty heavy weights, and I did it. I'm a bit bruised, but even that is evaporating as the minutes tick by.

Despair doesn't get you anywhere. Clear thought, positive attitude, taking action: those get you wherever you want to go. So, I'm leaving despair behind, and turning my face toward my next positive action, which is to follow up with the 25 people that I met yesterday.

Day 4 awaits!